Tuesday, February 16, 2010

The One Where She Faced the Dragon

I am at war. With my 12-year-old daughter. I tell her what to do. She agrees (often angrily, tearily or both), and then does what she wants instead. Maybe my boys were this hard to motivate, but I knew that for somewhere between 20 and 40 hours a week, they were going to be at school, where inspiration would be the job of the best teachers my tax money can buy. That didn’t always work out so well, either. But with homeschooling, it is my job 24/7. And about half the time, I am failing.

My own mom is a lot better at this. When she comes down for a visit, or when Cambria goes there, they turn out piles and piles of art and math and writing and social studies... but I seem to lack the Girl Mom gene. When I suggest such industry, I just get that look that says, “As if.”

Her education is not necessarily suffering... her standardized test scores remain very high. She is very talented and clever and witty. But she is happy to make me crazy for hours over one small writing assignment. I also don’t understand the tears. Clearly, I am making her cry. That I understand. But all I asked her to do is finish a science page.

Perhaps the key is to include an art assignment on each page. The dragon illustration was part of her English assignment... maybe I just need to figure out how to get her to illustrate her math?

7 comments:

Sam said...

Let me know when you figure it out! If one more person told me to just give Sam a nice, quiet place to study, I was going to ____ them in the _____ (fill-in-the-blank here...). We took everything away from him but he would sit happily in his empty room.

Now, we have the car, his phone, but it is a control issue and Sam usually wins.

sad but true said...

Geesh, that isn't Sam but ME!

lisa

Carolyn said...

So this is very curious to me. Why are you homeschooling? Your boys all went to school right? I have pondered homeschooling on and off for years. I've never been brave enough.

sad but true said...

I am a little disappointed in your kindness and Cam being able to find it so easily. You really need to channel your inner Mean Vicky.

Kris Olson said...

Homeschool. We are using timers, points to buy something at the "Mom Store", and 15-30 minute breaks between subjects to play on the computer or video games. We do almost all the math on a whiteboard with me writing, because Tanner won't!!

Debbie / Cranberry Fries said...

AH something I'm not looking forward to. My girls growing up and having more of their own independence.

JustJules said...

I have two girls. Both require much emotional commitment. It is draining most of the time. But there are moments that make this journey worthwhile. I just wish they came every day! Did the homeschooling thing for two years with our daughter. It was an interesting experience. She is back in public school now and we are both happier! My heart extends out to you! Just remember to breathe.....